Co Parenting

Your children deserve happy parents

Robin’s experience shows that divorce often provides an opportunity to focus solely on parenting. Once you no longer have to navigate all of the other complexities of marriage — sex, housework, relatives, work-ethic, attitudes — co parenting is often a welcome relief. Is my marriage over? It might be … but your children might have two better parents as a result.

Co Parenting Coaching Sessions

The various types of child custody arrangements and various co parenting solutions will be discussed in your divorce coaching sessions. When deciding if their marriage is over, Robin’s clients are always very concerned about their children having to grow up in two separate homes. Some of her clients’ most pressing questions are:

  • What are my custody choices?
  • Do we have to do 50/50?
  • What is a 2/2/3 custody share arrangement?
  • Does the house factor into the custody decisions?
  • Won’t shared custody confuse my very young child?
  • How will I make my teenager go to the other parent’s home?
  • Will I get full custody if I have been a stay-at-home-parent for many years?
  • Will my child’s special needs be taken into consideration?
  • What if my child’s other parent and I don’t agree on therapy for our child?

Many clients take comfort in the fact that Robin and her ex-husband had an excellent co-parenting relationship — even though the divorce was precipitated by her spouse’s heartbreaking betrayal. This was hard work, but well worth the initial strain considering her kids have grown up to be happy and well-adjusted adults — despite divorce.

Robin’s experience shows that divorce often provides an opportunity to focus solely on parenting. Once you no longer have to navigate all of the other complexities of marriage — sex, housework, relatives, work-ethic, attitudes — co parenting is often a welcome relief. Is my marriage over? It might be … but your children might have two better parents as a result!

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How Do We Make Good Custody Decisions for Our Children?

When establishing a co-parenting plan that works for both the children and the parents, you will need to understand that compromise is almost always the name of the game. This sounds awful, to most parents, when they are talking about their children’s lives. Please don’t worry. If you keep your eye on what really matters to children of divorce, you will be able to reach a mutually agreeable decision that works for all members of your family. You will want to consider:

Co Parenting helps keep the peace
  • What will really matters to your children in the long run:
    • You need a schedule that will allow the children to spend enough time with both parents to grow and maintain parent-child bonds.
    • You need a schedule that will allow enough time for the children to be role-modeled by both parents.
    • You need a schedule that allows both mom and dad to share both the mundane everyday parenting tasks and fun stuff!
  • You need to live close enough to one another that sharing child-rearing tasks is not an undo burden on either parent or the children.
  • You need to figure out a way to keep your children happy without trying to control your ex-spouse’s behavior.
  • You need a communiction plan that makes talking with the other parent about important child-related issues a simple task that leaves little room for “button-pushing”.
Robin Graine, JD, CDFA – Divorce Coach & MediatorCo Parenting